Mondays are ought to be spent on bed. #FreelancersCreed
Anyway, I am back in my worktown and this marks my 5th day away from work. So you can just imagine how awesome I must be feeling.
However, the past weeks have been agonizing and and heartbreaking, especially for J, but life rolls that way and all we can do is to accept things. I went to Ilocos with him to express my sympathy for him and his family. I have met his family a couple of times, but I haven’t met his other titos and titas who are based outside of the country.
I love being with his family. They are a happy bunch. Even though they were faced with humongous problems, they don’t base their everyday mood on that. They have a time to mourn and a time to move on. I met his favorite tito and his lovely aunt. And I felt the warmth that they welcomed me with. They would always ask J if I have eaten — if they can’t see me when I am just a.) sitting in a corner where they can’t see me or b.) I am hidden by J’s back when we have to share a chair.
They would also send in wedding bell queries and all I could manage was giggle. Do I hear baby quotes soon? Not yet. It’s just that J has a lot to do before we settle and so do I. I mean, I still have my graduate studies to finish and we still need a car before the wedding rings. It would be hard planning a wedding, going here and there if you don’t have your own car, aight?
Moving over with the wedding chimes, they have different death traditions that we do. Of course, they’re living in the north and I grew up in the Visayas. Some would take me by surprise. Some seem vaguely familiar. Some were opposite than ours. Whatever those traditions are, I open-mindedly take in and excitingly comply to (I have to participate in some. Feeling like a part of the family lang?).
It is on this very lake where we did such things. We crossed the lake with L, J’s pamangkin (nephew) needing just my hand to make it through. He’s just 4. On the other end of the lake, there’s this spring spot, marked by stones where the locals could drink. We took a sip.